Yoruba Demons: Is he really the demon?

I know what you’re thinking, oh dear another victim has come to cry about her experiences with a Yoruba guy, yawn. No, I’m that percentage that actually love Yoruba guys and I think they treat you like princesses when you play your own part correctly.

Baby boys united

But I won’t side them 100% in this blog because… they play a huge part in where they got the title from. Yoruba demons has been a thing for a while. Even my own dad is classified into the Yoruba demon clan (sorry pops). A yoruba demon apparently is a dude who likes to:

• wear Rayban
• wear multi colours of Agbada (Trad wear)
• has a main chic and 25 other side chics (kudos to you if you actually do, energy energy)
• continuously breaks your heart
• Cheats (because he can’t help it apparently)

Irrespective of tribe, there’s bad boys all over the globe, so what is it about “Yoruba” men?

well shit then

But aside from jokes, I know a lot of guys who pride in this behaviour but I speak for the innocent ones wrapped up in distin and I must say, that what we are doing to the yoruba boys is deep dawg. This is kinda sorta tribalism & bullying, and it can only end up in worse… like not being able to get guys at all, because they are guarded as there’s slight possibility they’re gonna be classified as ‘demons’. No free trips to restaurant for you honey boo…

This whole Yoruba demons thing came from a bunch of girls (Worldwide) who allowed a bunch of guys (Yoruba) to happily  take them for dickheads and blame the guy for his actions and not 100% admitting hers. Am I right ladies? 
Now I really have to delve into this because it’s been a thing I’ve been observing for time. Dating a Nigerian guy for the first time this year opened my eyes so many dating scenarios that internationals are accustomed to and I’ll start by saying where the problem lays. And not to buy my team out… but ladies, but we play a big part in this fuck up.

 

 

 

shit den, wonder how that happened

Basic thing here is Nigerians (in all diasporas) focus on marriage (not all but it’s a huge thing in our culture) and all the shiny things that come along with it, rings, big weddings, sex NOT fornication, Instagram holiday photos to boast of your “great” relationship, and while people focus on the image as most Nigerians do, you take away the value of dating and marriage. That bella naija gasssssed u guys and then it brought out the neediness of having a boyfriend, while focusing on all the wrong things, I know a large number of Nigerian girls who only wanna get married so their husbands can pay for trips to Dubai for Christ sake.

 

“you don’t know my mates are getting married, and I’m here chilling while their husbands are flying them around the world” – Anon, Nigerian Girl, Aged 23.

Us ladies have the choice whether we wanna accept a prick or not and we also know our actions and where it could lead us to, but we choose to ignore them because… “Love”.  But it’s not really love when you’re only with the dude either because of his status (links to better richer guy) or what he can do for you financially. I hear (see) in Lagos, 75% of Nigerian girls do not have just one man in her life. She’s got like 5 “boyfriends” for different things, but she fools and tricks herself as if she’s looking for”love” only when things don’t go her way.

Ladies need to have self control and not allow the so called “Yoruba demons” have their way because he may offer somethings you w a n t not need. A man will only treat you bad when you allow him to or you’ve given him evidence that you do not deserve his respect.

A guy is supposed to pursue you and treat you and alla dah shi which is where Yoruba guys excel in, but don’t rush that and only date him for only that purpose, it will not last and thats how you end up crying to subdeliveryman and have little petty thoughts about messing up his new relationship with a girl that has boundaries.

 

 

Guys too, also practice self control, it’s not every chick with bobby and backa you must attend to, it’s not every girl you play save a hoe to because you wanna get in her pants. Learn boundaries, build friendships and not situationships.

I finished that bit on a high, with my afro bobbing as I typed haha, but um yeah, slow steps and let’s let this yoruba demon thing go.